“Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive
him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.””
Luke 17:3-4 ESV
Recently a retired minister told me how his family still blames him for the death of one of their relatives. All he had done was wired money to her at her request. His action came from his love for her. But her boyfriend who was drug addicted murdered her for that money. Clearly the minister had not done anything wrong, but years later he struggles with guilt, which has been reinforced, if not caused, by his family members blaming him. Now I feel certain that he has counseled people during his pastoral career about such undeserved guilt, but he has suffered for many years. Hopefully my discussion with him eased his conscience and reminded him that God forgives us when we repent and turn from our sin. In his case, he didn’t need forgiveness, except from himself.